Should Your Best Friend Have Your Partner's Number?!

Hello lovelies! Sevsland is back!! I decided to do something different and write a post with people’s opinions on a topic. We had a live Instagram session with so many interesting opinions from people but unfortunately the video did not save. I would like to thank everyone who joined our session and DM’d me their opinions. The topic is: Do you think it’s okay for your best friend to have your partner’s number? This question is very general and can branch off to many more questions. We will try to stay on track 🙂. In this post, I will be using initials for privacy reasons.

What is my take on this question? I do not have an issue with my best friends having my partner’s number or my partner having their number. My friends and I have a strong bond and we are respectful of each other. As for them texting I do not see a problem as long as it is minimal. What I mean is they can text but not to a point where they are texting more than we do. Other than that I do not see why we all can’t be friends.

Our first guest is a lovely friend I met through school! She goes by JG. JG has inspired and taught me so much with her knowledge, care and friendship. Her take on this might be different from most but take a read and let us know what you think!

Hey JG, Hope you’re doing well! I would like to ask you what is your opinion in regards to your best friend having your partner’s number? JG replies “it’s a big NO. Why? JG says it’s not necessary. I don’t want his best friend’s number and he does not need mine. JG says there is no reason for him to have my best friend’s number.” JG what if you found out that they were texting without your knowledge. How would you feel? JG replies: “I would cut them both off and no questions asked. I don’t even need to know what they were texting.”

Our second guest goes by HM. I met HM through my girlfriend when they were dating. He is a fun, caring individual and driven by hard work and dedication.

I asked HM the question and his response is as follows: “It’s all based on a matter of trust. I wouldn’t mind if I knew the vibe was friendly. In reality it takes two to tango, so if something isn’t right it’s because one person is giving and one is receiving.” His response was on point! I then asked him what if they were texting daily. He responded: “it is not an issue. She can have friends but if it is more than me and if it gets more personal it means that there is an opening for it to become something more. This would lead to the partner thinking maybe this person is a better fit. If it is not a dominant thought it will be a thought one way or another. When you connect to someone in a certain scale the brain will begin to find more ways for you to align with that person. Connecting with someone on a deeper level means that your significant others mind and yours will begin racing. The human mind craves one thing more than physical interaction and that is understanding. Someone on the same wavelength as you more than the person your with will begin to be seen in a different light. But then again it isn’t always the case. You can be close and not feel anything.” HM has a mind of his own. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you so much HM for your perspective and your time!

Our third guest is the one and only mv.isuals!! I met mv.isuals during university and I am so thankful I did! She has brought so much light and positive vibes into my life and I cannot thank her enough.

I asked mv.isuals the question and her response was the following: “I do not see it as an issue but rather think it is okay for my best friend to have my partner’s number and vice versa. She says it is normal to have their numbers to stay in touch just in case they needed something.” I then went on to ask what if they were texting daily. She says: “she would not care because she wouldn’t think anything of it.” My last question to her was what if the texting daily led to something else such as them seeing each other? She responded: “then it shows me I don’t want individuals that don’t respect me to be in my life. They can go on and date but I wouldn’t want people that overstep and don’t have respectful boundaries around me or in my life.” Thank you MV.ISUALS!! Love you

Our fourth guest goes by A. I met A through my girlfriend. He is a cool and modern guy!

I asked A. the question and his response was the following: “I don’t think there’s any issue in having their number. In case they need to get a hold of you and you don’t respond they could just ask the person ‘do you know where they are?’ The only issue would come from someone overstepping their boundaries (aka catching feelings and trying to have a relationship with that individual)” I went on to ask “How would you feel if they were texting daily?” A. responds: “Lol for me no but the person I consider to be one of my closest friends is a female, so I wouldn’t have those kinds of concerns, however if it was a guy I would feel a way slightly.” My last question to A was: “What if your best friend did overstep and your girl had feelings as well?” A. responds: “They should be together because clearly there is no respect from either one of them towards me.” Thank you so much A for your perspective and time!